Tuesday, June 30, 2009

When to say when?

Today I enjoyed an afternoon at the pool with my dear Summer sister. Before we left, we ate Rodeo burgers at her house. I got french fry on my face and was thankful I had an SS to tell me I had french fry on my head before going into public.

Then not but just a few hours later, that SAME SS and I were sitting in the water when an old friend of SS came up to her to say Hi. I wouldn't have thought twice about the woman until I noticed that half her nipple was hangin out of her swimmer. For sure my SS would save this poor woman as she did me with the french fry head. But no. For over 30 minutes they chatted about past friends, schools, PTA, everything under the sun...but NOT nipples.

When the lady had long left SS, I looked at Summer and said, "WHY DIDN'T YOU TELL HER?!?"

The problem here is that SS didn't know if she was in the position to tell this woman her areola was showing to the entire pool. All the other women saw it...I watched them as they stared. And it didn't help that her nips were probably the size of the top of a coke can (thanks Bonnie for that comparison).

So was it SS's responsibility to save this woman from more embarrassment? When DO you say something? When someone has french fry on their head? When they have stuff in their teeth? What about a booger in their nose? How far do you go? Bad breath? Messy hair? When does your "help" become rude or even MORE embarrassing?

Bonnie told me of a story about an old friend who she went to Wet N Wild with back in junior high. The poor girl's swimmer bottoms were pulled too far to one side (as most of the slides there can easily do to a girl) and she was unaware that not only was one whole lip exposed, but the hairiness on it as well. Bonnie didn't speak up the entire time.

Would you? Tell me about when you did or didn't say anything to your friend? Or even a stranger? I'm curious. We need to take a poll on what the SS should have done and what you would be willing to say to someone.

Thanks for the input. Future nipples and hairy lips hanging out will appreciate it.

24 comments:

Bonnie said...

Ok, corrections!!!!

It was my friend's mom's hairy lip... that's why it was so hard to say something! My friend came out of that thing, I was in no position to say anything! But the fact that I didn't has plagued me ever since, and that is why my friends, that I will ALWAYS tell you if you have a bugger, or if your little ladies are peeking out. I hate that I didn't say anything then, but I will never make that mistake again. I assure you, all nipples and hairy lips are protected with me around.

And, shame on you Summer for not protecting your friend!!! Don't be surprised if you never see her at that pool again. Poor lady!

To sum up, always tell if there is a bugger, an open fly, a peeking nipple, a hairy lip, a french fry head, or a mustard lip... but I draw the line at bad breath. That could be a medical problem, and if there is nothing they can do about it, no sense making them self-conscious about it.

Bonnie said...

It drives me crazy that I spelled booger, bugger twice in that comment. What was I thinking!

The Burns Family said...

I would agree with Bonnie...I Guess a good rule is...would you like someone to tell you if yourself had a hairy lip hanging or a peeking nipple...then you should definately tell that persons...all I can say is what comes around...goes around. If you honestly don't feel comfortable telling that person...tell some one sho is closer to them.
I knew someone who had Aunt Flow surprise them with a visit because she was definately peeking through...I didn't feel comfortable telling her, so I told her mother who was there.

Candace said...

OMGosh! I just can't imagine the hairy lip or the half exposed enormous nipple. How embarrassing. I think I would only tell if it was someone I felt comfortable with. I know that's horrible, but it's so hard, because then from that point on everything is so awkward! UGH... tough situation.

Willis Party of 5 said...

I wonder if SS will tell me that my bush needs to be weed wacked? I know for a fact that you would!

I think you should tell someone....one time, I saw a guy with half his "sac" hanging out in the breeze....but I did NOT say a word....it was just too much! So, I guess there are certain things that I will tell people, but maybe not things like "hey stranger, your hairy ball is hanging out to the left". That would be too much!

dena said...

since j lowe is a blogging superstar, i'm going to LAUGH when niplet reads this post.

i just told the checkout lady at walmart that her fly was down, so you can count on me to report the crazies! so, uh YEAH!! tell your friends!

Froggylady said...

I'm a teller. I have approached people at the mall about zippers down, strange objects on their face or in their hair, and one time a guy had his hairy nut hanging out of his pants and rested it on the register I was working so I let him know it was out by slinging a can of baked beans in it's direction. :) He got the hint.

Dana said...

I am cracking up.... Ok.. Yes I would tell them if 1.. i knew them..2 they were the same sex.. I don't think I would a guy.. something about that doesn't make me feel comfortable....

Mary said...

mortifying on both accounts.

I don't know, it would depend if I knew the person. If so, I'd probably make some joke about it and move on as to not embarass them too bad. But if I don't know them, no way in heck I'm telling them!!

Marian said...

I find it difficult to fathom how someone cannot feel when their swimming cossie is askew and exposing their bits and pieces. Do their body nerves not send signals? I can feel a lint fibre on my arm.

Yes, I tell my girlfriends, but only one-on-one and quickly return to the conversation at hand, e.g., I handed a friend a tissue and said "right nostril".

Incidentally, you might want to mention to Bonnie, though a mere misspelling in this case, the word "bugger" (sodomize) should be avoided in the presence of the Brits. :)

Aunt M

raschel said...

LOL. this was awesome. was it REALLY her friend, or someone that deserves what's coming to them? b/c i have a lot of "friends" from high school I'd love to see embarrass themselves. KIDDING. I would've told the person b/c I'd be devastated if that were ME w/ my ginormous nips hanging out. (I've told you stories...poor girl can't help her big nips, she probably wants them surgically shrinkened...thank gosh mine aren't as big as a coke can.) The whole lip thing...ummm...if it were a FRIEND, yes, I'd tell...but a stranger, that would just be too embarrassing. If it were a guy, and he was my friend, I'd definitely tell them their nut sack was showing. I agree w/ Bonnie though, I wouldn't tell anyone I didn't know (w/ the exception of my sister, mom, husband, or children...) that they had bad breath b/c wouldn't want them to freak (and sometimes a piece of gum won't do the trick...even though sometimes I get myself an altoid or pc of gum and offer it w/out blatently saying 'you have bad breath').

Queen Mama said...

Oh em gee! I am going to pee in my pants at work today! I always CRACK up when coming to the INFAMOUS JESS LOWE's page. It's hilarious.

I feel partial to telling, CERTAIN, people. Not all. If I really don't care if they are going to moritfied, I am not saying anything. I will just laugh with everyone else. If its someone I like, talk to, and know. I will gladly tell them.

So, it depends how Summer felt about "said" person. But, there is never a right time to tell people their coke can size nipples are showing. Lmao! Or the hairy lip.. I am dying over here!

HILARITY! I tell ya!

Valinda said...

I would tell a friend for sure, a good acquaintance probably but a total stranger no, I would feel weird. I do appreciate it when people let me know I'm looking stupid.

Deanna said...

Just last week at the library storytime, a lady had on a spaghetti strap tank and was a bit too busty for it. She too had a nipple half out. I might have said something to her but there were about 20 people in between us so I couldn't. Someone must have told her or she figured it out because she fixed it. I was so embarrassed for her though.

Sara said...

wow, I think I would def lean towards telling....especially if I was just in the midst of a conversation with them...I would want someone to tell me; short embarrassment is always better than long term!!!! ;)
The things you come up with! lol
and wow the froggylady's experience, was he just tall enough that that's just how it fell..ewww!....

Anonymous said...

NIPPLES and NAKED LIPS just ENJOY the VIEW, SACKS and HAIRY LIPS there should be a LAW AGAINST that!!!

Kathy said...

My grandmother used to say-if they can fix it with minimal effort, notice by others, or embarrassment-tell! If not-keep your mouth shut.

Giaellis2 said...

WOW! I am ROFLOL! Thank goodness you were stalking me, so I can now stalk you and read such hilarity with REPULSIVE visuals, thank you very much! #1. If her tatas were fake, she may not have "felt" the cool breeze on said coke can nipple (personal experience=YES) #2. Hairy lip should have NEVER happened because women (even old moms) should landscap!! It is no longer the 70's and ok to sport a "bearded clam" #3. I also witnessed a sac escape out of a photographer's shorts as he was squatting on the sidelines of a soccer game. I was a pee-wee at the time, so just giggled a lot, but remember being HORRIFIED that I had to touch that (not his) chicken skin one day! UGH! #4. As loud and outspoken as I am, I have a hard time telling people I'm not VERY close with when something on them needs attention. One time a good friend was coming out of the ocean towards me (I was on beach towel) when to my horror the red river was pouring down her thinghs!!! I ran at her and tackled her into the water pretending to be silly (not abnormal of me) and told her after I rescued her from almost drowning! We had to play it off and frolick a bit before I went up and grabbed us each a towel and threw it at her before her crotch hit the air. Will you girls be attending the pool tmrw? I have Kristen's kids and was hoping to take them! I still want to get together with you gals!! Got the sinus crap under control today! WHEW!

Staci said...

hahah well I guess it depends how comfortable i get while in the conversation to finally point it out but be discrete about it! I could never tell a mother of a friend I would tell my friend to go tell her mom herself. I'm usually the bad friend though that sees something on my friends face but just ignores it hahahah sorry if you hang out w/ me you will look retarded! Maybe its my way of looking better then everyone else hahah. SS did what I would of done :S.

Staci said...

hahah must be a Kelly girl thing!

Lindsay said...

ugh... if i had a sweeping neck line swimsuit and a nipple the size of a coke can top.. i'd DEFINITELY be glancing down occasionally to make sure that embarrassment wasn't a-brewin' between the two. It's not summer's fault. keep your nips in check, i always say.

Kris said...

I don't know if I'm allowed to post a comment on this, but as a guy, I can't understand how this could happen to a guy. Swimsuits and shorts are plenty long enough that they don't just hang out...you'd have to know. It just doesn't seem likely to be an accident.

David and Teresa said...

My my a mutha cannot even get a word in edgewise on this blog anymore. So many followers..uh..um..I hope that I would tell them (whomever they are) Remember Jess at Restland Mark Hancock? I used to tell him when he had stuff on his face (and there was always something there). His shirt was always out in the back and I would tell him. Then one day i traveled all day long with a particle on my facial expression and NOT ONE HUMAN told me about it not even Mark. I finally saw it in the mirrow at the end of the day and went straight to Mark and chewed on him and told him I ALWAYS tell you, Mark so you better tell me! Before I go, another time I used Burt's Bees but the kind that shows up white on your lips. I was trying it for the first time and did not know it would be white on my lips. It was for out in the sun, i guess. I wore it to work and NO ONE!!! told me. I was laughing so hard at the end of the day and after waiting on my family that was grieving.. How scary was I to them...ugh! Anyway, i now do try to get the word out to the person that has the embarrassing thing going on with them. Whether i tell them or i tell another to do it. One way you can be the bearer of the bad news is to just remove the thing from them. I often just lick my finger and wipe it off (if I know them that well)..you know like a mom does her kids or sometimes I don't lick..I just reach up and take the foreign particle off myself. This not only removes it but it does it in an endearing manner and they seem to be less embarrassed. Love you,
Mutha

Riece said...

I would tell friends, definitely not a stranger. And I'm with the person who said you should KNOW if your private bits are exposed. If I feel a cool breeze in my nether region, something is amiss. Also, I am not very blessed in the boob area, but even *I* check my ta-tas regularly when swimming. Man oh man.