With a newborn and three kids running around acting like hellions, most of the time I feel like this mothering thing is a wasted effort. I feel like I'm yelling at the other three or getting on to them ALL DAY LONG for not picking up, fighting, getting into the food, leaving messes, yelling and screaming, etc etc. I hate it. Lately I've been feeling like my job as a mother is failing and my kids aren't learning a SINGLE thing I'm trying to teach them.
THEN, I have a day like today that makes me feel like I'm doing something right.
When I drop Jake off at his Magic Camp and he runs to the door, and swings it open quickly because he sooooo excited about being there and then he stops. There's a little girl coming from the other direction so he waits there with the door open instead of rushing in and letting it shut in her face, letting her in before him. I wasn't there to tell him to keep it open like I usually am. Did he hear my voice in his head? Did he actually remember?
When I came downstairs and saw the 5 sweaty and extremely hot men working on the pool and then I noticed 5 water bottles on the patio table. I assumed my mom did it, but then Kora tells me SHE did it. No one told her to. No one asked her to get them something to cool off. No one even mentioned how hot they must be. She thought of giving them water on her own, and so she did it. Has she seen me do something like this before and remembered it?
When I'm washing bottles and Miah tells me he wants to help. Even though there's really nothing he can "help" with, he crawls up onto the counter and unscrews each bottle so he can hand me each bottle and nipple individually. Has he heard my complaints about cleaning the bottles?
It's days like these that gives us mothers that extra boost we need to keep on TRYING. It may seem like our efforts are wasted because we're always yelling and getting frustrated, but when we aren't around, their actions prove that they DO listen. I love my heathens, even though they make my hair fall out, they sure are super.